happiness and success
Really happy people can be more effective people. Whatever your current situation is, you can be happier, learn to motivate yourself, put yourself on a positive and realistic path to success, or reinvent yourself in the kind of person you want to be.
This website contains several segments of guided measurements. This is followed by three of my books:
- Your unfinished life - Finding happiness and success through kindness
- For university students: you and your future - a guide for career and job seekers for students
- It is a matter of life and death: growing up in a funeral home and what I have learned since - finding happiness, arousing curiosity about funeral homes, helping people who have a serious illness, helping mourning the loss of a loved one and looking are to recovery
Take notes and write down ideas that you encounter along the way. These sources are just a starting point to set goals for yourself and to improve your outlook and your life.
Many remarkable works of luck and success are quoted here. It is important to experience them yourself by reading from the original sources. The tests in some of them are valuable and an essential element for knowing how we can work more effectively. What I have read and summarized may not be as relevant as anything else that you would see that would speak to you more directly in an original work.
I hope you will refer others to this site through your associations and through social media so that the information here can also help them. Come back regularly. The site is constantly being expanded and revised.
Use of these sources
1. Follow the material one after the other (which I would recommend) Read the introductory material under each heading and then click on the measured values in order.
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2. Scan the list of segments and select one. Some may not have the time to complete all the measurements listed here, so if necessary, click on certain sections that interest you. Although my goal is to let everyone take full advantage of everything here, I prefer that visitors get some value than none.
The best way to think of these sources is that they are intended as a "bridge builder" that leads you to further detailed and customized research that will help you learn more about yourself and lead to other educational experiences, and also for professionals, who are highly trained and experienced to help you. Reference to the sources below is only the first step. It is not a goal in itself.
It is important for your success to seek different opinions. By the time you finish, you have had many, including mine. But that is not enough. You should consult with people who know you best and also with others who are familiar with areas in which you are interested. Any advice you receive from others will not be good. You may also disagree. Just record it all and evaluate it as you continue. Also keep an open mind.
The benefit of these resources and any further actions you take can only be determined by the actual steps you take to improve your life. Reading alone, while it is well worth creating the right motivation and state of mind to help you move forward, is not a substitute for setting meaningful goals and actually doing something to achieve them.
How long do you have to keep this up?
Keep these two thoughts in mind as you go through life:
Plan to live a hundred
The famous motivational speaker, Dr. Robert Schuller said that this is the correct time reference. (It doesn't matter how long you actually live.) The idea is to always have personally relevant goals or a project, as long as you live. This gives meaning to your life - and meaning helps to produce happiness and a sense of success. (A feature on "Sixty Minutes" indicated that the population segment more than ninety years old is the fastest growing segment in the country. It is expected to quadruple in the coming decades. You may not be able to reach a hundred, but you can still always be a nonagenaar!)
You are never ready
"How do you know when your work is ready?" The answer: "If you are still breathing, you are not yet ready."
Always have goals, and keep track of them, even though it's ninety, it's just to talk to two friends a week, check out Google News (if it's still around), take care of your pet, take care of your herb garden and fill the bird feeders every other day. Keep in mind Renoir's last words: "I'm still busy."
The famous British polar explorer Sir Ernest Shackleton is buried on the island of South Georgia in the South Atlantic, a region where he has demonstrably set the standard for leadership, loyalty and team building when he does not reach the South Pole. If you ever feel that you have done as much as you can, or that you have failed in something and are not feeling well, read Shackleton's Boat Journey by Frank A. Worsley, the captain of Shackleton's ship Endurance. It will keep you enchanted and full of awe at how many human beings can cope and still get on top of it, no matter how long the odds are, even though they may not have achieved the goals they had initially set for themselves.
And what about the "You've never been done?" part. Let it be said about you, as it was about Shackleton:
"Never the lowered banner, never the last attempt." Keep fighting until the end. There is much in you to give and a great example that you can set for others
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I have taught more than fifteen thousand university students and more than five thousand students of real estate schools, have diversified work experience, combined with student guidance, and have read extensively on topics relevant to this site. It has helped others. It can also help you. Although I have set up this resource bank to help you, I am not a career advisor, course advisor, psychologist, doctor or lawyer. Such questions must be referred to suitable professionals for assistance.
Recommended books to keep you going
Authentic happiness - Martin Seligman
Flourish - Martin Seligman
50 successful classics - Tom Butler-Bowdon
The Happiness Curve - Jonathan Rauch
The Positive Shift: Mastering Mindset to Happiness, Health, and Longevity - Catherine Sanderson
The How of Happiness - Sonya Lybormirsky
Peak - Secrets From The New Science of Expertise - Other Ericsson and Robert Pool
The power of habit - Charles Duhigg
Grit - Angela Duckworth
Blink - Malcolm Gladwell
Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience - Mihaly Czikszentmihalyi
Happiness: Unlocking The Mysteries of Psychological Wealth - Ed Diener and Robert Biswas-Diener
Thrive - Arianna Huffington
